The fulcrum and the lever ; Principle #3. If you like The Happiness Advantage, you may also enjoy the following books: ...and I’ll show you how to live better and work smarter—faster than you ever thought possible. 2. The 7 principles being; 1. When challenges loom and we get overwhelmed, our rational brains can get hijacked by emotions. Set the course for your mind to look for good things and it will see them more and more often. 1,995 reviews Our most commonly held formula for success is broken. And one, which I call the Third Path, that leads us from failure or setback to a place where we are even stronger and more capable than before the fall.”, “Study after study shows that if we are able to conceive of a failure as an opportunity for growth, we are all the more likely to experience that growth.”, “By scanning our mental map for positive opportunities, and by rejecting the belief that every down in life leads us only further downward, we give ourselves the greatest power possible: the ability to move up not despite the setbacks, but because of them.”, “People’s ability to find the path up rests largely on how they conceive of the cards they have been dealt, so the strategies that most often lead to Adversarial Growth include positive reinterpretation of the situation or event, optimism, acceptance, and coping mechanisms that include focusing on the problem head-on (rather than trying to avoid or deny it).”, “The people who can most successfully get themselves up off the mat are those who define themselves not by what has happened to them, but by what they can make out of what has happened.”, “Things do not necessarily happen for the best, but some people are able to make the best out of things that happen.”—Tal Ben-Shahar, “When people feel helpless in one area of life, they not only give up in that one area; they often ‘overlearn’ the lesson and apply it to other situations. The Happiness Advantage - Being happy gives you an edge or an advantage in terms of achieving success so happiness should be our focus, not success. If you work hard, you will become successful, and once you become successful, then you’ll be happy is a broken formula. And when willpower fails, we fall back on our old habits and succumb to the path of least resistance. “Psychologists have found that these kinds of gains in productivity, happiness, and health have less to do with how much control we actually have and more with how much control we think we have.”, “The most successful people, in work and in life, are those who have what psychologists call an ‘internal locus of control,’ the belief that their actions have a direct effect on their outcomes.”, “Experiments show that when people are primed to feel high levels of distress, the quickest to recover are those who can identify how they are feeling and put those feelings into words.”, “By tackling one small challenge at a time—a narrow circle that slowly expands outward—we can relearn that our actions do have a direct effect on our outcomes, that we are largely the masters of our own fates.”, “Small successes can add up to major achievements. Exercise a Signature Strength Find your signature strengths and exercise them as often as possible 2. There is so much information coming at us that if we had to take it all in we would be easily overwhelmed with data. It was filtering out the red and anything else that wasn’t brown. See this post for my summary book review or follow along with the entire series below. “This invisible pull toward the path of least resistance can dictate more of our lives than we realize, creating an impassible barrier to change and positive growth.”. And they enable us to make and sustain more neural connections, which allows us to think more quickly and creatively, become more skilled at complex analysis and problem solving, and see and invent new ways of doing things.”, “People who put their heads down and wait for work to bring eventual happiness put themselves at a huge disadvantage, while those who capitalize on positivity every chance they get come out ahead.”, “Even the smallest shots of positivity can give someone a serious competitive edge.”, “Happiness is not just a mood—it’s a work ethic.”, “Neuroscientists have found that monks who spend years meditating actually grow their left prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain most responsible for feeling happy.”, “Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. The Tetris Effect teaches us how to retrain our brains to spot patterns of possibility, so we can see—and seize—opportunity wherever we look. Do these rituals every day for at least 30 days. After many years and hundreds of interviews with workers in every conceivable profession, Amy Wrzesniewski has found that employees have one of three “work orientations,” or mindsets about our work. Get My Searchable Collection of 100+ Book Notes, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck, Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel H. Pink, The Art of Work: A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant to Do by Jeff Goins, We become more successful when we are happier and more positive, not the other way around, Happiness is the joy we feel striving after our potential, The Happiness Advantage is not the belief that we don’t need to change; it is the realization that we can, Happiness is not just a mood—it’s a work ethic, We can use our brain to change how we process the world, and that in turn changes how we react to it, Constantly scanning the world for the positive, allows us to experience happiness, gratitude, and optimism, When we reframe failure as an opportunity for growth, we are all the more likely to experience that growth (see: post-traumatic growth), The most successful people, in work and in life, believe that their actions have a direct effect on their outcomes. discovering the happiness advantage the happiness advantage at work change is possible part two: seven principles principle #1: the happiness advantage principle #2: the fulcrum and the lever principle # 3 the tetris effect principle # 4: falling up principle # 5: the zorro circle principle # 6: the 20-second rule principle #7: social investment If I were to ask you to look around the room you’re in right now and look for everything that’s brown, brown, brown. Just a reminder here; if you want to become a more thankful or appreciative person it takes focus and practice. The more social support you have, the happier you are. The reason so many of us have trouble sustaining change is because we try to rely on willpower. But the most successful people invest in their friends, peers, and family members to propel themselves forward. Another mental path leads you toward further negative consequences (i.e., you are far worse off after the negative event; this path is why we are afraid of conflict and challenge). Here’s the good news about having a mind that sees things in patterns; we can train the mind to see what we want it to see. Martin Seligman, the pioneer in positive psychology, has broken happiness down into three, measurable components: pleasure, engagement, and meaning. Posted November 8, 2020. He explains it as a way to write down at the end of each day three good things that happened that day.